Over the weekend, an acquaintance of mine and her family were in a terrible car accident. My guess is that they never saw it coming. Everyone in both vehicles was injured. The woman I know is still in the hospital and one of her children is in another hospital in ICU.
Even though I haven’t spoken to her in years and years, I haven’t stopped thinking about her since I heard the news.
As a mother I imagine that this is the most difficult thing she has ever gone through. She is lying in a hospital bed wanting to be by her child and she can’t. My heart breaks for her.
As I think about her and pray for her family, I am reminding myself that our lives can change in a split second. No matter what we do to have control over our lives, they can be turned upside down in an instant and there is nothing we can do about it.
It is a harsh reminder that I need to make some changes in my life. This may all sound cliche, but it is all so true!
1) Focus on the important things. When the kitchen sink is overflowing with dirty dishes and the laundry pile is several feet high and one of my children wants me to read a book to them, I need to remind myself that the dishes and laundry can wait. I need to take the 5 or 10 minutes to do the important thing and read a book to my child.
2) Don’t sweat the small stuff. When someone decides to draw a masterpiece on the wall with crayons, will it really matter in 10 or 15 years? No, it won’t, so yelling and screaming are not worth it. Does the child need to learn that drawing on walls is not okay? Yes, of course. But I don’t need to lose my temper and possibly damage my relationship with my child to teach that lesson.
3) Be generous with your love. Tell your family that you love them every day. Give them hugs every day. Smile at them and laugh with them every day. Some days I don’t feel loving. Life and to do lists can be overwhelming and I can be really cranky. Being loving is the last thing I want to be, but I must be loving no matter what.
I encourage you to keep these things in mind, too, as you go about your daily routine.
I will continue to pray for this family that they all have a full and speedy recovery with no lasting effects from this accident. Would you send up a quick prayer too? I know they would appreciate it.by